How to stop worrying

The emotion of fear has a positive intent, to protect us.  I think the first sign of worry is a signal to act. I believe it is rather like a hazard warning.  If you see some water split on a hospital ward or factory floor you would clean it up.  This was very useful thought process for our ancestors to text them from bad weather or other tribes but maybe today sometimes it kicks In inappropriately.  very recently I was extremely worried about a presentation I had to do to cardiologists in a local hospital.  I prepared for the meeting and was extremely anxious.  The key point is I had never presented at this meeting before and the meeting couldn't have gone any better.  Often when we take action the worry stops.  There is a great line on a plaque in a churchyard in Cornwall: worry is like paying interest on problems that have not occurred yet.

So rather than worry, I would like you to ask yourself a better question.  Once you start asking yourself better questions, your state changes and you are more likely to have more forward momentum.

here are some positive questions.

what result do I want?

how can I improve the situation?

who can help me?

what haven't I done yet?

i have found that asking myself better questions gives me a better result and sometimes quicker and more effective than positive self talk. Of course you can do both.  Questions determine the focus of our perception.  Sydney Banks suggests that our thoughts are like the rudder of a ship that steers us safely to open water or alternatively can lead us onto the dangerous rocks near the shore.


From now on ask yourself better questions and reflect on your thoughts. You will become more positive on your outlook and take charge of situations.

some of this was taken from Steve Kay - NLP coach

jane kellett